Is Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies Worth the Read?


I saw the cover of this book on Instagram, and thought a book with F*cking in the title would surely be something I needed to read. I would categorize Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies as a self-help book, but in the form of stories and experiences from Schuster’s life.

This book was easy to read, and I liked her honest stories and humor. I appreciated that  she included that she didn’t have a perfect childhood because a lot of us didn’t, so it made it more relatable. She reinforced that we all have voids or things that have broken us, but we can work on loving ourselves.

However, as a 38-year old full-time working married woman with 3 kids, I questioned how much her rituals could be implemented into my life. She had practical habits that people can do to improve their lives, but all of them at the same time seemed like a lot. Many of the rituals Schuster does are suggested in other self-help books in one way or another, but her raw honesty and humor made it fun to read.

I have read Girl Wash Your Face, Daring Greatly, The Secret, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, You are A BadA$$, and many others. All of these books, including Schuster’s, have generally the same message, but written with his/her own personal spin. Here’s what I learned or what ideas were reinforced.

I created a checklist based off of my reading of things to accomplish as a concrete way to see my own self-improvement, but I don’t know if I will have time or money for all of the items on the list. Or if I am actually committed to doing the rituals. That’s probably why so many different self-help books are sold. People are looking for the magic answer to happiness. Here is the short list, which I will be expanding on in future posts.

  1. Journal
  2. Favorite morning drink
  3. Exercise
  4. Eat healthy
  5. Gratitude Journal
  6. Don’t be so hard on yourself
  7. Take time for yourself
  8. Treat Yourself
  9. Find good friends
  10. Get inspired
  11. Pray
  12. Have boundaries

That’s it? So easy, why am I not already doing this?

Let’s dig in…because let’s be honest, YOU have to put the work in yourself. Reading the book, and trying an idea once is obviously not going to change your life.

GET A JOURNAL OR 2 OR 3! My next post will include action steps that YOU can take to start finding your HAPPINESS.

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