Sisters
I went through a messy divorce, which was by far the hardest part of my life, even worse than losing my dad, yet I had moved on, remarried, and finally found happiness. However, my ex-husband remained a thorn in my side. Every move I made, he managed to complicate. He hadn’t been very involved in…
You can’t be a mom
As I walk to my seat in my freshman Intro to English class, I feel this guy looking at me. I glance his way, and he is just smiling and kind of trying to make eye contact. I can tell that he is thinking of something to say. This should feel exciting. It is college.…
Who Are Your People?
Do you feel accepted and liked? Geez, that’s a tough question! I don’t know, sometimes? I guess it depends on who I am around. I have some awesome people in my life who include me in their plans, and I hope that means they like me. I am so grateful for that, considering that I…
It’s Not Personal
“The way people treat you is usually about them not you.” In “Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies,” Schuster writes, “I knew I couldn’t control how other people treated me, but I could decide what I would accept” (216). This quote resided with me because, while I feel comfortable having acquaintances, I find myself struggling with…
Are You Putting Yourself Last?
Now that you have started journaling and are working on creating habits that help you understand more about yourself, set an intention to do something nice for yourself every day. Make YOU a priority. Don’t put yourself on the back burner. It is so easy to fall into that place where you commit to doing…
Quarantine is Giving Us the Time We Need
The biggest takeaway we should get from any self-help book is not to slack off on the strategies the author gives us. We have to be INTENTIONAL with our self-care. Make Rituals for ourselves and stick to them. Obviously, we would all love to do this. I can just imagine starting my day journaling…
Are You Wearing a One-Piece?
My husband recently turned 40, and we were fortunate enough to take a trip to Jamaica. I had been envisioning this vacation for months and had packed way too many swimsuits and outfits that I would never wear at home. Who doesn’t do that for vacay? That’s what’s so awesome about getting away. I had…
The Matriarch
A wave of sadness has come over me as Easter is approaching. I log onto Facebook, and a memory from 10 years ago pops up. I see a picture of my son on Easter, and think…so much has changed over the years. The picture is taken at house that is a distant memory of a…
Dear 20-Year-Old Self
Dear 20-Year-Old Self, First, I love you. I am proud of you. You are a good mom. No one really ever tells you that, but you need to hear it. I know that having a baby at 18 changed everything. You had to grow up fast, but you are going to be ok. My advice…
Lesson 2-Loyalty
Somewhere along the line a ‘little’ thing called loyalty became very important to me. Because of my hypersensitivity to it, I’ve realized that our society is honoring this idea less and less. Some of the people that I come in contact with on a daily basis are lacking this character trait altogether. It has become…
Suffering Teaches Persistence
Part 1 “Get through your fear to see through the beauty on the other side.”- The Good Dinosaur I went to my women’s group last night, and the woman speaking said, “suffering teaches persistence.” One of the lessons I learned through my dad’s addiction was persistence. I have always been an overachiever and felt like…
Lesson 1…Truth is Subjective
It is impossible to tell the truth from a lie when dealing with an addict. I don’t even know when the addiction really even started. As early as I can remember, my dad always had a beer in his hand, but that was just normal to me. Everyone drinks beer, right? A thirty pack…
Ready-Fire-Aim
Blogging 101…Research the title before you buy the domain. For most people, that would be the first move, but not me. I failed to tack on the extra ten seconds to do a simple Google search. My biggest strength and weakness is my passion. I get so excited about my projects that I just go…
Mom Life
Little boxes on the hillside, Little boxes made of ticky tacky Little boxes on the hillside, Little boxes all the same, source: https://www.lyricsondemand.com/tvthemes/weedslyrics.html Complacent-Predictable-Monotonous My day can be summed up into the lyrics of three songs. Let’s start with the opening lyrics from the Showtime Series, Weeds. In today’s world, we are still Keeping up with…
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